How To Get An Objective Point Of View

How To Get An Objective Point Of View

To succeed in life, both in the world of business, relationships and other things, as well as succeed in the inner world, the spiritual world, you must learn to accept reality and your actions as they are without trying to make things fit your imagination.
Attain an objective view of reality. This is the biggest problem for people, they never want to accept objective truth, we prefer subjective truths. It seems that these days everyone wants to believe that they have their own truth and they call it truth when it is their personal illusion. On this planet, a tree is a tree, it is made of wood, and if you run full speed into it, it will hurt.
This is why people who excel in life are so rare while others live with troubles and desires that are rarely fulfilled. You must find the objective truth. This is the most important word that anyone can ever understand, objective.
Objective means looking at the object or situation as it is, and subjective means looking at the object as you believe it to be. Believing does not always change reality.
My father has the attitude that even if it is daytime and he says it is night, then he is right because he is the father. Perhaps this is why people want so much to change reality to their own imaginary idea of what reality is, it gives them a feeling of power that they can create reality rather than live under someone else’s illusion.
‘Better to live in my illusion than someone else’s.’ Unfortunately it is like a snow fort, real only as long as the weather stays below freezing, which means not real in a seasonal climate. Reality is something that is permanent.
Reality and truth are the same for the seeker. In business, we must look objectively in order to prepare for the possible problems. If you enter into a business venture thinking that all will be perfect without a day of trouble, or a personal relationship believing you will be without any disagreement ever, you know what you will end up with. The crashing disappointment has turned people away from business, made them hate money, closed their hearts so they can no longer love, made some into bitter old people because they cannot stand beating their head against a wall when nothing goes the way it should. Everything IS going the way it should, it is just that we do not accept reality of the situation.
When you are frustrated because things are not going the way you think they should, question who set up the standard of ‘the right way’. Perhaps that was an illusion to begin with. When you see this veil, you can remove it and see objective reality clearly. Once that happens you will be able to deal with all circumstances painlessly in order to achieve your goals because you will see them clearly and be prepared.
It is not the illusion, nor is it the reality behind the illusion; it is the veil that lies between that is the key.
This may be perceived as a negative view of the world, not so. It is true that you will begin to see that the world is not so nice a place, but that is reality. When it becomes depressing is when you are trying to live in an illusion that all is perfect and then it doesn’t work out that way. Your illusion is shown to be false and that is where the negativity arises, in the dream being show to be false rather than the truth of the situation.
I call myself an optimistic pessimist. I am always optimistic that things will go well, but I look for all potential troubles before I set out on a new venture, which could be seen as pessimistic. In this way, I maintain a very positive attitude, but I am prepared for the reality and if that occurs, there is no shock or surprise so I maintain my positive attitude.
If you view all things objectively, you actually do not see anything bad or negative at all. Everything is normal and this changes your experience of life to actually eliminate negative experiences and makes life much more pleasant because there are no rude surprises. Many people are suffering from depression because they are living in an illusionary world and get depressed when things do not work out the way they think they should. It would frustrate anyone to try and grab the apple off the table but never touch it because in reality it is only a holographic projection.
To attain an objective view of reality means that the world is not going to be exactly the way you want it to be, and most of all, you are not the way you believe or would like yourself to be, and you must accept that.
One evening in my school in Denver, I asked everyone if they where completely honest and never stole anything. One older gentleman, who I can say is probably one of the most honest men alive, said that he is very careful never to steal anything and is very honest. This gentleman worked for the federal government, an employer who normally labels everything as ‘property of the US government’. I then asked him if he took a pen home today that belonged to the office for office use. He did. It may not be a big thing, but it forces one to examine their own reality, which is always an illusion. His regret was not in stealing a pen, but in the realization that he is not as perfect as he believed he was.
Stealing a pen is not a big deal, but believing a lie is.
If you saw all the little lies you believe about the world, and yourself, it would be virtually impossible to live in peace. I can say that from experience. But the question is what do you want to achieve and what are you willing to do to get it. If you want a perfect life filled with peace, joy and success, which is what almost everyone wants, then you have to be willing to see the world and all situations as they actually are. And sometimes that means not getting what you want because that is not the best thing for the other person. It means sometimes giving up your fears and desires for the sake of another person because at that moment in time, another’s needs are more important than your needs.
The turmoil in self-exposure is temporary. Once you decide that you will live with truth rather than illusion, the disruption of peace goes because you have accepted the truth that you cannot be perfectly objective, but will forever continue to seek to improve. And that is an objective truth.
This way of living and seeing life will bring all the inner joy anyone could ask for. However, there are still moments of inner turmoil and pain. The difference is that with this way of seeing life, you feel the pain but it does not hurt. This is something that cannot be explained, it must be experienced. In order to develop this ability, there are all the other practices that I have taught, self-observation is one of the biggest and most important ones. Then there are all the little practices which help develop your ability to self observe that I teach in my courses.
The closest analogy would be to traveling on a long plane ride that you hate, yet you will endure because of the point of the travel. If you could sit there, cramped in the little seat, and just think of the destination, the warm sunny beach on a quiet island, then the limited space on the plane would not bother you as much. So in this same way, when you see the world objectively, and realize that what needs to be done at the moment is not what you want or what gives you pleasure, yet it is what needs to be done if you look objectively, then you can experience the difficulty and remember, this too shall pass.
Moments like this lead to years of joy and success.

How to Maintain Your Zippo Lighter with Love and Care

How to Maintain Your Zippo Lighter with Love and Care

Before we begin this process of putting the passion back into your Zippo relationship you will need the following tools: A flathead screwdriver, an extra flint, a rag, a whole lot of love and Zippo lighter fluid.

Gently open the Zippo with whichever fingers you use to do that and, admire its inside beauty. Make sure that you handle the Zippo Lighter like you would a baby chick, caressing it to show it that it’s loved. This will help build trust between you and the windproof lighter as you get ready to remove its parts and refill it with lighter fluid. Refilling the lighter fluid is just like rekindling the flame between two old lovers.

After much assurance that everything will be alright, remove the Zippo insert from its case, exposing its vulnerability to the world. Like so many others with a hard exterior, the Zippo is really soft and sensitive inside. Lift up its soft cotton strip and prepare to pour in the love.

Take the Zippo lighter fluid container which I call the Vessel of Love and pop the top. Soak the exposed cotton ball with lighter fluid but please be careful not to get overexcited and over do it with the pouring. Give yourself a moment after you are finished for it may be months possibly years before you get to do that again

The flint of the Zippo has probably given itself to you over and over throughout its life at your every command. And, now that the lighter fluid love has been given and received, it’s time to replace the flint. Without make any abrupt or sudden moves that may scare the Zippo, gently take the screwdriver in hand. Battle and defeat the coldness of the screwdriver by warming it with your fingers as you begin to unscrew the gold cap that leads you to the precious flint.

Unfasten the Zippo’s cap, the only obstacle between you and the flint and pull out the lengthy slender coil. Set the cap, coil and used flint, which are all connected together, gently on the table as you would a napping infant. Seize the replacement flint without the used flint seeing, for it will cause too much pain knowing it is being replaced by a younger flint. Throw the old flint away and move along to the new. Attach the new inexperienced flint to the coil and re-insert the flint and coil into the corridor.

Once again take the screwdriver that which the Zippo is now well acquainted and screw the cap in place. Feel free to screw it hard as it needs to fit snug. Set the screwdriver down and slip the Zippo back into the comfort of its sleek metal case. Gently rub down the Zippo with a soft towel, removing any blemishes your foul dirty fingers may have left on its beautiful case.

Properly set the mood by playing some Marvin Gaye as you prepare to strike the flint and test the fruit of your labor. Close your eyes and envision the lighter’s flame calmly floating in place above the Zippo’s chimney like leaves of a tree blowing back and forth from a gentle breeze. Open your eyes and with the controlled aggression of two Tango dances ignite the Zippo!

Keeping your Zippo lighter happy is fairly simple to do. Keep it filled with Zippo lighter fluid love and pick it up a pair of flints once in a while and it’ll ready to burn for you whenever you want. And unlike your spouse or significant other you can always send it back to Zippo for a free repair if there is an issue you can’t handle.

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How To Estimate Painting Jobs – 6 Important Things To Consider

How To Estimate Painting Jobs – 6 Important Things To Consider

Estimating house painting jobs is something that you develop over time. I can go into any house and go from room to room and tell you by eye just how much paint you will need to do the ceilings, walls and woodwork. I can also tell you just about how long it will take to paint each room basically.

I can even tell you just about how long it will take to paint each room in general. But estimating many times goes a lot deeper than just eyeballing a few simple rooms. So here are 6 points to help you when figuring your bids or estimates.

1.) Know Your Target Market

When getting prepared to do a painting estimate you first need to know your target market or markets. Are you going to be painting in middle-class neighborhoods or are you going for the high-end glitzy neighborhoods? Or are you going after commercial or industrial accounts?

Now you can you gauge how high you are going to set your bid rates. You can have have high-end rates for larger homes, or for commercial or industrial painting, and mid prices for the rest.

Personally, when it comes to painting for residential customers, I keep my rates the same. I do not care whether it’s high-end or middle class. If they cannot afford my painting services, I am out of there. Once you have painted at a higher price, it’s hard to go lower unless of course, you are hard up.

If you are estimating painting jobs for big business you can and should aim competitively high without worrying about much competition as you would in residential painting. Plus larger commercial customers have deep pockets. Also to consider, if you are tackling those types of accounts you will need extra painters anyways so you definitely need to aim high in your bidding to cover their wages and benefits.

2.) Fool-Proof System

You need an accurate estimating method that works perfectly every time without fail. Whether inside or outside. You can stand and stare at a project all day and try to guesstimate exactly how long it will take you to paint something or you can use an accurate method for bidding paint jobs and walk away smiling and not wondering if you might bite the bullet on that one.

3.) Allowances

You need to allow for fuel, travel time and even giving Uncle Sam his cut. If you will be driving long miles you definitely want to account for your fuel and travel time, even overnight expenses if you get that advanced in your painting business. Again, if you have employees you will need to account for their wages and benefits in your bids also.

4.) Hidden Expenses

You need to be aware of hidden expenses or projects that add extra time and extra materials to a job. Things like hard to cover colors, excessive prep time, high-work, down time due to outside sources that are common in new construction, etc.

5.) Cost of Materials

You need to know how much paint and materials you will be using. (Note: A good estimating system will automatically include all your paints and materials.)

6.) Flexible Methods

Your estimating system should have several ways of figuring your bids. Just like a set of golf clubs, some times you need a different driver to make it on to the next green. Different jobs require different painting estimating techniques.

For example: painting ceilings, walls and woodwork estimating can change if you have excessive woodwork like walk-in closets with tons of shelving. Or rooms with high walls.

The same goes for exterior work in residential painting. Are the surfaces smooth and clean or is there stucco or shingles that require extra time and materials? When you have an easy system in place you can build up an estimate to meet the type of project you are facing.

Many times on larger estimates, I will cross-check my painting bid from different angles by using two different estimating techniques just to make sure I have it all together and did not leave anything out of the big picture.

How Not To Miss Your Flight

How Not To Miss Your Flight

Sometimes the most stressful part of going on holiday, or travelling far away for business is getting to the airport on time, and with good reason, because as we all know, missing a flight can mean having to pay for tickets for another flight, with long delays in between. But if you want to avoid this stress, here are some tried and tested ways to ensure that you won’t miss your flight and ruin the start of your holiday.

Be Prepared

This isn’t just a motto for the Scouts, but also one for everything that life throws at you, including going on holiday. So as the saying goes, be prepared, mark the dates of your holiday in your diary, a calendar, or even your mobile phone, so you don’t forget. Inform your work of your chosen holiday dates so that you won’t get caught up in any least minute work problems and time how long it will take you to get to the airport, because every second counts when you’re on holiday.

Get Up Early

Set an alarm or two, so that you can get up early and make sure everything is ready for your trip. Ensure that you wake up your family and travelling companions so that they have plenty of time to get ready, and pack snacks and entertainment, such as an MP3 player, books or a portable DVD player.

Get to the Airport

If you got to travel far to the airport, make sure you leave in plenty of time, if you need to take a taxi, book it in advance and let them know what time your flight is, so that it arrives promptly. Keep listening to the radio for the road traffic updates, so that you know which roads should be avoided if you’re driving yourself to the airport. The check in time for international flights is three hours before take-off, so make the most of this time in the airport, and read up on information on your destination that you can make the most of your summer holiday.

How Many Types Of Video Conferencing Systems Are Available To The Users?

How Many Types Of Video Conferencing Systems Are Available To The Users?

Video conferencing systems have come a long way over the years, and there’s definitely one out there that’ll work for you. However, there are also lots of different options to choose from, so finding the right one can get confusing. Here’s a quick look at the different types many corporations and government offices are using.

There are four basic kinds of video conferencing systems. Telepresence conferencing systems allow you to have a meeting with people located abroad, and comes in room based (immersion) and portable types. This system involves flat panel screens and high definition audio, allowing you to really feel like you’re there. Prices range anywhere from sixty thousand dollars to three hundred thousand, depending on the size of the system you get and what you need from it.

Integrated room conferencing systems are somewhat less expensive, at ten to one hundred thousand dollars, and are common in schools and offices. Hardware is located in a centralized location, and the setup includes a main camera and displays, as well as peripheral video sources. This kind of system is less immersive than the above, but also more affordable.

A set top system is designed to sit on top of your monito. It’s small and simple to transport, so you don’t need a dedicated meeting room. Priced at three thousand to twenty thousand dollars, these are more affordable, though they offer a much less realistic experience.

Desktop video conferencing systems are even less expensive. They’re often used in very small businesses, by people who want to video conference for non professional reasons, or by workers at home. Priced at around two hundred fifty to four hundred dollars, these conferencing systems don’t provide the features of the more expensive ones, but they still handle sharing of audio, voice, and applications.

Some people don’t want to pay at all for their video conferencing, and use webcams and microphones to chat with one another. Software is required, as well as a high speed Internet connection. These are the least reliable and lowest quality, and should not be used for important business purposes, however.

When purchasing any of the more professional types of video conferencing systems, you should expect them to be installed and set up by a technician working for the vendor. After installation, most systems are simple to operate, with user friendly systems.

Almost everyone who needs to talk to someone at a distance can benefit from the purchase of a good video conferencing system. There’s no need to maintain a huge travel budget, and meetings can be called with people in distant places on much shorter notice. You’ll just need to decide which type is best for you. Think about your resources and what you need out of the system. That’ll help you make the right choice.

How to Get the Best Deals at Allegiant Air

How to Get the Best Deals at Allegiant Air

Every air passenger is always looking for ways to lower his cost of traveling and getting best deals from an airline. On this page we are going to focus on how to get the best deals at Allegiant air, one of the most popular airline with local flyers in US. You will come across most airlines advertising promo codes, coupons or any such deals to help the passengers save some dollars.
The airline too offers allegiant air promo code to its travelers so as to help them lower the costs of flying. Passengers make use of these codes and coupons to get the best deal at Allegiant and lower their fare costs. You can get more info about these promo codes at the website of the airline or get in touch with their customer care.

A couple of the different promo codes offered by the airline are GOHOME 1-800-2ChaCha., 2-letter G4 code, 35HOUR round trip$35 off and many more. However, always check for the expiry date of these coupons. You can download these coupons for a small cost and later save quite a lot on your travel expenses. These coupons are most commonly used by the passengers to get massive discounts on your flight bookings. Check the promo code box of the website of the airline for these codes. A 50% off code means you can save 50 percent of your air fare!
Many times, people prefer buying these coupons from the Allegiant office at the airport so as to avoid any extra charge. However, at the office, one passenger can get only one coupon code for a single booking.

When looking for on how to get the best deals at allegiant air, there are no short cuts here and one needs to make some effort. One needs to do research and look around to get the best deals and make some good savings.
Here are a few pointers to get some good deals at allegiant air.
• Keep an eye for the last minute deals
• Do not travel during the rush times
• Collect Frequent Flier Miles
• Keep yourself updated
• Get in touch with their travel agents
• Take advantage of their holiday packages
• Checkout for special discounts for children & the senior

Usually, smart travelers wait and look around to get the best deal while flying. If they can afford to, they can plan and schedule their flight to get the cheapest rates. They wait for the right time when buying the tickets and save a neat amount of dollars as flying can get very expensive during the peak travel periods.

Remember to make it a habit to visit the airline’s website frequently, so as to keep updated on their discounts and new promo codes introduced. Why pay extra when you are a regular flyer with them? Don’t be afraid to call their customer care as they would only be too willing to help you out.

Very soon, with time and experience, you will have a fairly good idea on when and how to get the best deals at allegiant air with Allegiant air promo code and other options.

How Seattle IVF Can Be Beneficial To Couples

How Seattle IVF Can Be Beneficial To Couples

The choice to start a family is one which most young couples end up deciding on without having any difficulty. For a small number of couples, that choice is trickier to do through due to many troubles, one of them being infertility. One of several approaches by which infertile people have the opportunity to continue to start their family is through IVF. In vitro fertilization is the process where the mans sperm and the female’s eggs are put together in a laboratory and injected with the aid of a professionally trained doctor. This procedure doesn’t always get the job done the couple times a couple attempts it, but for some, this is the only road they could go down to have a possibility at the children they want. In vitro fertilization does have advantages and the rate of success helps it to be an ideal choice for a certain types of couples.

IVF is a medical process that couples turn to in order to get pregnant if the man is having infertility problems, or the woman has obstructed, damaged or missing fallopian tubes, or maybe a condition known as endometriosis. It is also used in partners that have tried unsuccessfully for a long period of time without success with unexplained fertility problems. As soon as this approach is decided on, the female has her eggs taken from her ovaries and combined with the mans sperm in a laboratory. By doing this, the two can become fertilized after which transferred to the females uterus to see if a healthy pregnancy can take place. The task always transfers two to four embryos back into the woman’s uterus, creating multiple births some of the time. The success percentage rates are close to 22.8% live births to egg retrieval, bringing hope to many married couples.

IVF was first introduced and effectively utilized in 1981 in the United States, and has since delivered over 45,000 newborns to married couples. The first successful newborn . to be conceived through this method was in 1978 to Louise Brown, overseen by doctor Robert G. Edwards. He was the physician who advanced this process and has since won the Nobel Prize in Physiology Medicine. This procedure is considered to be a safe and effective way for husbands and wives to achieve parenthood who otherwise have zero chance for pregnancy. It’s really a pricey procedure, with each cycle running a married couple as much as $80,000 dollars if not more, but for married couples that have their heart and soul fixed on a child of their own, it’s a amazing path to travel down. Each and every married couple needs to invest time to examine their options and the procedure with their doctor to find out if this is an ideal process for them.

For married couples that find themselves having difficulty conceiving a child naturally, they have to begin looking at other medical avenues to get pregnant. IVF has become not just a safe medical alternative, but a successful one. Though there’s always a risk with every medical procedure, it is said to be a fairly safe one for the female and the male to have to have their desire of becoming parents. Each and every husband and wife deserves the right to be dads and moms, and this procedure results in even medically challenged couples the opportunity to have a child.

How to find Modest Wedding Dresses- Part One of Three (especially LDS Wedding Gowns)

How to find Modest Wedding Dresses- Part One of Three (especially LDS Wedding Gowns)

How to find Modest Wedding Dresses- Part One of Three
How to Choose a Modest Wedding Dress (especially LDS Wedding Gowns)
Once a Modest Bride have gone inside of a tradition bridal wear of formal wear department store or a nationwide bridal retailer you know how difficult it is to find wedding and bridesmaids gowns that come anywhere close to satisfying Latter-day Saint standards of modesty or an Modest Brides standards for LDS Weddin Gowns. Modest brides or LDS brides need to eliminate a lot of dresses from the running at first glance. So how do they select the best one from the remaining acceptable choices?
Not withstanding what a lot of fashion designers seem to think, there are thousands of flattering styles and designs of modest gowns for brides and bridesmaids. It all depends on your budget, your wedding colors and theme, and of course your body type. Learn which modest wedding dresses fit you best and how to find a gown that is both modest and stylish. Then pair them with just the right veil, shoes, and accessories to wrap it all together.
Where to Find Modest Wedding Dresses
Even in the dead of winter, it’s truly difficult to find even one modest dress in the formalwear or bridal section of most retailers. Most women’s formalwear is strapless or backless with a plunging neckline. The irony is that dresses with a little more coverage are actually more flattering for the majority of body types out there! Regardless of whether or not it makes sense, the fact is that any bride is going to have a difficult time finding a modest bridal gown – so she might as well know what to do about the situation.
LDS or Mormon Wedding Specialty Stores
LDS brides who live in areas with a large concentration of other Latter-day Saints usually have an easier time finding dresses that suit them for their Mormon wedding. Specialty LDS weddings retailers cater solely to Mormon brides who don’t want to bend their standards of modesty for their wedding day. Even brides who don’t live in Utah often make a special dress-shopping trip to Provo or Salt Lake City, including the travel cost in their LDS wedding gown budget.
Online Formalwear Retailers – with featuring Modest Wedding Dresses
Even if you live in an area with a limited section of modest dresses selection and don’t want to travel, you’re not completely out of luck. Fortunately, the LDS bride will find that the Internet can be your best friend in shopping for modest wedding gowns and bridesmaid’s dresses. LDS specialty stores may physically reside in Utah and Idaho, but they have an online presence everywhere in the world. Regular formalwear stores also have a larger selection online than you see in the showroom, so you may want to check those out, too.
Chain Formal and Bridal Stores
Don’t discount the possibility of finding a dress at a not so modest formalwear or a traditional bridal store. You may luck out and fall in love with a modest wedding gown that they carry, or you may find a gown that can be altered for modesty by adding sleeves or a chemise underneath. Talk to the salespeople about your needs and see if they can help you. It may be that they carry “less popular” dresses with sleeves in the warehouse and just need to order them in your size.
How to turn Modest Wedding Dresses into LDS Wedding Gowns that are Temple Ready Dresses
Even if the wedding gown you ultimately select is modest, it still might not be “temple ready.” A dress that can be appropriately worn inside the temple for the sealing ceremony is:
• White
• Long-sleeved
• Floor-length
• High necked (no collarbone showing)
• No train
If you don’t want to wear a long-sleeved wedding dress, don’t panic. You can always wear a dickie or faux sleeve inserts provided by the temple underneath your dress for the sealing, or you might opt to change into a plain white temple dress for the sealing. Brides without a temple ready dress can still get married in the temple, and have lots of options for what to wear during the sealing ceremony.
Temple ready rules only apply to the bride’s dress. The wedding party is not a part of the temple sealing ceremony. If the bridesmaids will be attending the sealing, they will be attending only as guests, wearing either their bridesmaid’s dress or changing into their “Sunday best” for the ceremony.
Setting a Bridal Gown Budget (Modest Wedding Dresses or LDS Wedding Gowns do not have to cost a Fortune!)
On average, brides who shop retail stores and buy an off-the-rack dress can expect to spend between $500 and $1,000. Wedding gowns of all different styles and cuts have an enormous variation in pricing, though: brides could get lucky and find a dress for less than $100, but you can easily spend as much as $4,700 or more!
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by sticker shock the first time you browse a selection of wedding dresses and check the price tags. It can be hard to part with so much hard-earned money for a dress that you’ll probably only wear for 8 hours of your life! But remember that you will only have one wedding dress, and you will be seeing it in your wedding pictures for the rest of your life. If finances allow, you shouldn’t feel guilty about splurging on this special once-of-a-lifetime expense.
If you’ve gone over your finances and still feel nervous about taking on the cost of a wedding dress, seriously consider money-saving wedding dress tips like renting a gown or buying a pre-owned dress. Traditionally, the bridesmaids pay for their own dress, shoes, and hair.
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How to Keep Your Horse From Getting Bored in the Arena.

How to Keep Your Horse From Getting Bored in the Arena.

Winter time is around the corner and you are probably wondering what you are going to do to keep your horses in shape, happy and willing over the winter months! Here are some exercises and suggestions to help.
Typically people ride the rail in the arena. Around to the left 4 times. Around to the right 4 times…walk, trot and canter. Three, four or more times a week…follow the rail to the left, follow the rail to the right…walk, trot, canter….You are feeling like “hurray! I rode my horse today!”
Well, have you ever wondered how your horse might be feeling about this routine you’ve so neatly set up for yourself? I say yourself simply because your horse would probably like to puke right about now. I don’t mean to say that in a sarcastic way. But think about it. How are his gaits? Sluggish perhaps? Perhaps he has that glazed over look to his face? Are you constantly pushing him forward? His he heavy in the bridle? All these things are signs of boredom for your horse.
If you could try to become more imaginative in the arena you would have a better chance at keeping your horse interested in what you are doing. And guess what! You don’t “have to have” obstacles to do this. They are nice, but you don’t have to have them.
First understand that the true rail is between your reins and your legs. The rail that makes up the sides of the arena are simply the boundaries of the enclosure you chose to ride in.
Another thing we need to realize is that our legs play an important part of our riding. We will be riding the whole horse if we can learn to use our legs. Most riders I see, are pushing in their stirrups to keep their heels down. When pushing they end up pushing their legs out away from their horse, instead of letting your legs rest on his sides.
The reins guide the nose in the direction of travel. The nose, takes the neck, because if you tip the nose, the neck will arc appropriately. While our legs drive the horses body in the direction of travel. There are other factors here also, but for right now, lets focus the use of our reins and legs and how they work for the exercises below.
Your foot placement on your horses side, determines what body part the horse will move. Are you moving the front end? Your foot placement will be closer to the cinch. Are you wanting the ribs to wrap around your leg in an arc as if on a circle? Your foot placement will be somewhere in the middle of the horse’s body. Are you wanting to move the hindquarters over? Your foot placement will be farther back on the rib cage. If were to ask me specifically where on the horse’s body is your foot placement for each maneuver, I’d answer IT ALL DEPENDS. You will need to adjust your foot placement on your horse’s side until your horse gets the message. Until he does what you are asking. Experiment and listen to your horse.
Ok, now you are more aware of your legs and how to use them. You understand the true rail is between your reins and your legs. Lets talk about the exercises in the arena now. To keep your horse alert and interested and participating in the arena vs. just going through the motions, we are going to ride circles, diamonds and squares. And….Not in any special order! Use your imagination. We all know what circles are. Make them big, small, spiral in and out. Squares, consist of straight lines and corners or turns. You can perform these turns using the the front end and the hind end in your corners. Your horse can make a turn performing a turn on the haunches or a turn on the forehand, yes, even at trot! Diamonds come after your circles and squares feel good. Don’t rush your horse. A diamond is straight lines with the corner becoming a hairpin turn. Look behind you, over your shoulder, keep your chin up and bring your horse with you.
A couple simple rules to keep in mind.
*Keep your horse soft, if he gets upset or bracey go back to the gait he was soft in or the pattern he was soft in.
*These exercises are performed at walk and trot in both directions.
*At canter keep to one direction at a time. PLEASE do not canter until trot is soft and relaxed.
*Change it up, be imaginative. Ride a circle, then ride a square, then change the size of your circle and square. *Change the locations in the arena that you are riding these patterns.
*DON’T DRILL ANY ONE PATTERN
*ONLY when your horse is soft, willing and quiet should you move on to the next gait or pattern.
*Don’t forget to use your legs
By using these patterns above, your horse will become more in tune with you. He will put more effort into the riding session because it will engage his mind. Feel him liven up, becoming more confident and willing because it was fun for him too!
**HAVE FUN!! If you go at this with the “gotta git ‘er dun” attitude, your horse will learn to hate this too.